Via earlier feeling nun vibes
Via earlier feeling nun vibes
On February 22nd I threw a fest with the help of wonderful people in FORTH and the PSGA called “Up Yours.” After the fest, there was overwhelming support and praise from so many people. One of the only critiques that was brought to my attention was that certain people were very upset that during one of the very rowdy sets I said over the mic “cis boys to the back!”
"Why would you say that? Aren’t we all here for the same reason?"
"I found that to be hypocritical, feminism is about equality!"
"I really didn’t like that, it made me as a cis male feel alienated."
Taking all of these points into consideration,
I stand by what I said. This is why:
Female identifying people and non cis males are consistently pushed to the back of crowds forcefully, knocked around and pushed in mosh pits, grabbed and assaulted in crowds, and flat out disrespected. It’s a huge problem at shows and has been confronted by many DIY feminists. “Girls to the front” is a historic riot grrrl phrase. Not having respect for your surroundings and hurting people in the process is dangerous and harmful. It’s been made clear that many female identifying folks have felt extremely uncomfortable at shows and in large crowds because they have been assaulted, knocked around, pushed to the back, hurt, etc before (myself included!) Up Yours was all about making sure everyone felt as safe as possible, and during this set, many really did not feel safe.
THIS was not a space for cis males to take up. THIS was a space specifically carved out for the empowerment and safety of female identifying/non cis males. In patriarchy, cis men do dominate spaces, and do dominate show environments. This fest was meant to tackle that and to create a space that did not allow it or put up with it. The fest is called UP YOURS for christ’s sake. Feminism is not about appeasement, punk is not about appeasement. If I didn’t say anything, and let all these dudes hurt people, wouldn’t THAT be extremely hypocritical? What kind of statement would that make? It would be BULLSHIT.
"But not all men are like that, why make it a battle?"
YOU made it a “battle” when you decided it’d be a good idea to punch me in the fucking nose during a set. Yes, not all men are like that, but that doesn’t mean you’re one of them, clearly. If cis men really want to be positive feminist allies, stop hurting female identifying and non cis males in crowds. Stop and realize for a moment what you’re doing. Stop and take a fucking step back for a moment. If we’re truly all here for the same reason, why are you hurting me?
The hypocrisy is this - you attend a feminist festival in support of feminism and everything feminism is promoting. You congratulate me on my efforts, you support FORTH, you support all the artists performing, you support the organizations. THIS IS ALL TALK. When the time came for you guys to take a step back (LITERALLY AND FIGURATIVELY) , and make room for female identifying/non cis male folks, it was as if the universe was exploding.
I am sincerely not sorry for asking you to take a step back, because I always have to take a fucking step back without my permission, consent, or will. I am fucking tired of explaining myself, I am tired of having to stroke the cis male ego, I am tired of being quiet. If you can’t move a foot backwards for a fifteen minute long set and keep your fists away from my face, then you are a child. THE END.
My family is full of incredible folks y’all
spending money today on something other than food, incredible
high fidelity is my worst nightmare i cant believe i have to watch this movie and watch john cusak whine about how awful women are
Dionne Warwick “Shall I Tell Her?” (From the LP Anyone Who Had A Heart, 1964)
There’s just been a huge onslaught of Dionne Warwick references in my life this week, and I haven’t posted anything by her in a while so…
Here we have Dionne Warwick being a man stealing hussy, instead of being the victim. It’s perhaps that this song comes from the pens of Doc Pomus and Mort Shuman instead of Bacharach and David that we get a little bit of a role reversal.
Interesting is that the song, if you notice, seems to pit Dionne against her own sister, Dee Dee, as the “Dee Dee” referenced seems to be a bit too obviously her sister. Adding to the weird family element, this is the first time her cousin Myrna Smith features prominently on a Warwick recording. All the incestuous manswapping didn’t get pulled from the LP, and remains a chipper camp classic to those in the know.
freakin the fuckout